Self care techniques
Self care is about utilising counselling skills and values you know about, teach to clients but don't necessarily use for ourselves. It is so important to find time to self care and not neglect the self.
When someone isn't self caring they will quickly recognise that they are not able to be there for clients as they once were. When in this position it is key to implement self care techniques to get yourself back on track. Remember, you are in the business of caring. So care for yourself as much as you do others. Congruence is the key. Don't just talk the talk.
Creating balance in your own life will promote balance in your work, reduce stress which in turn promotes a wider lens approach. A wider lens approach allows you to take in the wider picture by zooming out, enabling you to work with autonomy and creativity. We as people quite often find ourselves taking in a narrow view, highly focused, normally whilst under pressure or stress which reduces our own capability to provide a quality service. When focused on one element of a problem it disables our independence of thought as we are problem solving, getting caught up with a snow ball of spinning plates. Having self care will reduce the plate spinning.
There a a few practical strategies you can use that can be found all over the web. Youtube is a great place to find guided hypnosis, or guided mindfulness. Giving yourself time to breathe is so important. Giving yourself compassion and empathy are also key ingredients to helping you come out of neglecting yourself.
Split up your time to create a timetable to self care. This may sound ridiculous but in fact we need this, until it is instilled. Many of your clients will also need this, so start the process of leading yourself, so you can then guide others.
Spending time alone
Having quiet time promotes your automatic thought process to come to the fore. This is increasingly important in today's western world as there is no end of way to distract yourself from self.
Some much needed quiet time can help settle the mind, bring a better context to frame where you are in your head space. Having this downtime allows you to become aware of what you are feeling when you are free from distractions. Self reflect on your times in quiet spaces.
When you settle your mind, what will you do with that space thats left?
Engage with your own social life
Sometimes socialising and family time often takes a back seat to our ever pressing work loads. It is a key moment to realise that when these relationships are neglected we somehow lose sense of ourselves. We are human, we are not identified by our work. We are identified by the relationship we have with ourselves and others, this is how we understand how we belong in this world.
Make this a priority.
Promoting your own physical health
If you struggle with your physical health this will almost certainly impact on your mental well-being.
It is a known fact that exercise helps to motivate the mind in creating its own drugs to promote a sense of well-being. Physical exercise will make you feel great, it will promote a better frame of mind and in turn promote better relationships with others as you are having a better relationship with yourself.
Engage with others
Reach out and talk to others will help you by promoting being connected to the world. Humans have a deep routed need to be engaged with others like ourselves. Give yourself a platform to be yourself through your changing world of development. If you begin to feel lost, reach out!
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